MARRIAGE

WE, SPECIALLY THE ORTHODOX  JEWS IN STAMFORD HILL OR GOLDERS GREEN,

( THIS APPLIES TO ALL  GOYIM OR YIDEN )

DO NOT TEACH OUR  CHILDREN THE VALUES OF LIFE AND MARRIAGE.

HOW TO LIVE WITH A PARTNER AND LOVE EACH OTHER,

WHICH BRINGS A GOOD RELATIONSHIP AND HARMONY IN THE HOUSE,

WHICH IN TURN IS ALSO A GOOD EDUCATION FOR THE CHILDREN.

A HUSBAND'S JOB IS THAT HE LOVES HIS WIFE,

EVEN IF SHE IS NOT THE BEST ON THE BLOCK.

( SO THERE IS NO NEED TO TELL LIES AND HIDE BAD POINTS )

THIS IS THE ONE THAT G=D WANTS ME TO BUILD MY HOUSE WITH.

THE SAME GOES FOR THE WIFE.

 

I LOVE MY HUSBAND EVEN IF HE IS NOT THE BEST ON THE BLOCK

THAT G=D HAS BROUGHT US TOGETHER.

 ( THROUGH A SHIDDUCH OR FALLING IN LOVE )                                        

IS FROM HEAVEN AND IT COULD NOT HAVE BEEN DIFFERENT.

IF WE LOOK AT MARRIED LIFE WITH THESE SPIRITUAL EYES

THEIR WILL BE  TRUE LOVE AND HARMONY IN THE HOUSE.

IF THERE IS ALWAYS TRUTH BETWEEN YOU,

THEN YOUR MARRIAGE IS BLESSED WITH G=D'S NAME.

Marriage and Love

Golders Green Rabbis

MARRIAGE

WE NEED TO RESTRUCTURE OUR ATTITUDE

TO WHEN BOYS AND GIRLS GET MARRIED. 

I AM TALKING ABOUT ORTHODOX FRUM JEWISH YOUNGSTERS.

A YID DOES NOT GET MARRIED THE SAME WAY THAT A GOY DOES,

BECAUSE HE OR SHE HAS CERTAIN DESIRES IN LIFE FOR  "LADIES AND GENTLEMEN".

BUT A YIDDSHE BOY AND GIRL GET MARRIED 

FOR PARTNERSHIP AND FRIENDSHIP IN LIFE, TO GET TO A HIGHER LEVEL.

THAT IS THE PURPOSE OF LIFE AND LIVING TOGETHER

HAVING A HOUSE OF LOVE AND RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER.

THAT THEIR FUTURE CHILDREN SEE THIS AND LEARN.

 

IN EVERY MARRIAGE THERE IS " LADIES AND GENTLEMEN ".

BUT TO GET MARRIED FOR THAT PURPOSE ALONE IS NOT YIDISH,

IT WILL NOT PROTECT YOU FROM GOING THE WRONG WAY

AS THESE FEELINGS FALL AWAY AS YOU GET OLDER. 

SOMETIMES THEY DIE AWAY IN YOUR OLDER YEARS.

IF YOU HAVE NOT BEEN TAUGHT BY YOUR PARENTS AND RABBIS THIS

IN YOUR YOUNGER YEARS,

YOU FIND LOTS OF OLDER AND EVEN YOUNG MARRIED COUPLES

WHO DO NOT GET ALONG. 

 THEY GET DIVORCED NOT JUST ONCE BUT TWICE OR EVEN MORE TIMES.

SEX IS NOT LOVE AND GIVING YOUR CHILD A PARTNER FOR THIS PURPOSE ALONE WILL NOT PROTECT THEM THAT THEY DO NOT WONDER.

 

WE INVOLVE RABBIS AND LAY LEADERS IN A JOB THAT IS NOT THEIRS.

PARENTS NEED TO SHOW THE CHILDREN HOW THEY LOVE AND CARE FOR EACH OTHER.

LOVE IS A PARTNERSHIP OF FRIENDSHIP AND CARING.

THEN B"H THEY WILL NOT HAVE PROBLEMS WITH THEIR CHILDREN.

THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBER IS:

WE DO THE SAME THINGS AS GOYIM,

BUT WE ARE YIDEN ! ! 

                                  GABY LOCK

LEV SIMCHAH

MY NAME IS GAVRIEL LOCK FROM LONDON.
I MUST THANK YOU FOR THE STORY:
 " A VISION THAT SPANNED GENERATIONS."
I GOT MARRIED OVER 42 YEARS AGO IN ROTTERDAM HOLLAND
MY WIFE IS FROM HOLLAND.
THE WEEK BEFORE MY CHASSENE I WENT FOR A SHABBOS
TO THE BEIS YISROEL IN JERUSALEM.
MOTZEI SHABBOS AFTER MARIV THE LEV SHIMCHA SAID TO ME:
 " COME INTO ME AFTER HAVDALA."
I WENT TO HIS FLAT CAME IN.
 HE SET DOWN WITH ME AND TALKED WITH ME
 ABOUT MANY THINGS, FOR OVER AN HOUR.

I JUST WANT TO TELL YOU ONE OF THE THINGS HE SAID TO ME.
I DID NOT UNDERSTAND THAT STRAIGHT AWAY
BUT LATER ON IN LIFE AND SPECIALLY TO-DAY
I UNDERSTAND WHAT HE MENT.
HE SAID IN YIDDISH " A WIFE IS THE FOUNDATION OF A HOUSE, OF A JEWISH WIFE
DEPENDS THE WHOLE HOUSE. "
A HOUSE IS BUILT BRICK BY BRICK ON THE FOUNDATIONS.
A BOY IS SEPARATELY AND A GIRL IS SEPARATELY.
BUT WHEN THEY GET MARRIED
THEY ARE THE FOUNDATIONS TOGETHER OF THIS HOUSE.
THE CHILDREN ARE ONLY BRICKS THAT LEAVE THE HOUSE.

MY WIFE AND ME TOGETHER ARE THE FOUNDATIONS OF THIS HOUSE.
EVEN WHEN THE CHILDREN HAVE LEFT THE HOUSE
MY PARTNER IS MY BEST FRIEND, MY FOUNDATION
WHO NEVER TURNS HER BACK ON ME OR I ON HER.
AS THE POSUK SAYS" AND THEY SHALL BE ONE FLESH.
ONE FLESH IS THE FOUNDATION OF THE HOUSE.

WHEN WE GOT ENGAGED THERE WERE PEOPLE WHO SAID THAT THIS
MARRIAGE CAN NOT LAST.
TWO SUCH DIFFERENT PEOPLE.
COMPLETELY DIFFERENT BACKGROUND DIFFERENT CULTURE,
BUT THE FOUNDATION  BLENDED THE CULTURE AND BACKGROUND.
IT DID NOT COME EASY BUT WE WERE ONE.

I THANK G=D  THAT MY WIFE AND I HAVE PASSED THIS MESSAGE
ON TO OUR CHILDREN IN THEIR MARRIAGE.
ONCE YOU ARE  MARRIED G=D WANTS YOU TO BECOME A FOUNDATION
AND THAT IS WHAT THE LEV  SIMCHAH MEANT.
A WIFE IS THE FOUNDATION  OF A HOUSE.
                                                                GABY LOCK
                                                                 14 WARGRAVE AVENUE
                                                                  LONDON N.15 6 UD

SIMCHAS HACHAYIM

LAST WEEKEND A GATHERING TOOK PLACE IN BOURNEMOUTH.
IT WAS FOR COUPLES TO FIND SIMCHAS HACHAYIM.
TRANSLATED, HAPPINESS IN LIFE.
THERE IS HAPPINESS IN LIFE WHEN YOU FIND THE PURPOSE OF LIFE
AND MARRIAGE.
WE WAITED AND MY WIFE WENT THROUGH A LOT OF DANGER IN HAVING MY CHILDREN,
I DID NOT OVER LOVE AND SPOIL THEM,
BUT I THANKED G=D EVERY MINUTE THAT HE GAVE ME AND MY WIFE THE OPPORTUNITY
TO BRING UP MY CHILDREN IN EDUCATION AND BEHAVIOUR.

I DID NOT FIND MY CHILDREN AN BURDEN THAT DISTURBED ME OR MY DEAR WIFE'S LIFE
AND MY CHILDREN FELT AND KNEW IT.
I SEE THIS IN THE WAY MY CHILDREN BRING UP THEIR CHILDREN.
WHEN WATCHING YOUNG COUPLES TO-DAY,
WHO CANT WAIT TO GET RID OF THEIR CHILDREN AND SEND THEM TO SCHOOL
AND EVEN AT A YOUNGER AGE TO PLAY-GROUPS.
I WONDER WHY THEY HAD THE CHILDREN AS THEY ARE JUST BRINGING UP PROBLEMS
IN OUR COMMUNITY,
AS THE CHILDREN FEEL REJECTED.

TRUE LOVE IN PARTNERS IS CARING FOR EACH OTHER,
NOT JUST YOUR OWN SATISFACTION.
FINDING YOUR CHILD A BURDEN AND NEEDING TO HAVE A BREAK
FROM YOUR FAMILY AND HUSBAND IS VERY SAD.
IS THE REASON YOU HAVE NO SHIMCHAS HACIYIM

WHAT IS LOVE

I MADE A PROGRAM FOR THE BBC WITH MY WIFE
EXPLAINING WHAT IS LOVE.
WE HAVE A BAD UNDERSTANDING OF LOVE IN THE FRUM WORLD
AND OF COURSE IN THE NON-FRUM AND GOYISHE WORLD.

LOVE IS WHEN TWO PEOPLE FEEL CONNECTED WITH ONE ANOTHER.
THIS IS A SPIRITUAL CONNECTION WHICH G=D PUTS INTO A PERSON.
THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE PHYSICAL ATTRACTION,
WHICH WE CALL LOVE.
THE SPIRITUAL CONNECTION STAYS EVEN  AFTER
THE PHYSICAL CONNECTION  HAS PASSED.

THIS JOB OF EXPLAINING REAL MARRIAGE BELONGS TO
THE RABBONIM.
BUT MOST OF THEM DO NOT UNDERSTAND THIS
AS THEY DO NOT KNOW THAT THE LOVE OF A PARTNER
IS THERE TO TEACH YOU TO LOVE G=D.

TZOROS BY YIDEN

I SIT ON THE SIDELINES AND WATCH WITH A BROKEN HEART,
WHAT IS HAPPENING BY YIDEN.
I DO NOT OPEN MY MOUTH
AS THERE ARE NOT ANY EARS WHO WANT TO LISTEN.

IF WE WANT TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM OF DIVORCES
WE HAVE TO RAISE THE AGE
A BOY GETS MARRIED AT 21 AND A GIRL A BIT YOUNGER AT 20.
ALSO A BOY AND A GIRL SHOULD GO TO A
RABBI OR PSYCHOLOGIST
TO SEE IF THEY UNDERSTAND WHAT THEY ARE DOING.
THIS IS A LIFE TIME OF BENDING TO EACH OTHER'S WAY.

I WATCH SO MANY COUPLES IN THE SHOPS WITH MY WIFE.
ONE DOES NOT UNDERSTAND THE OTHER ABOUT
THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF LIFE
AND "OY VAY " THE POOR CHILDREN THEY HAVE BROUGHT INTO THIS WORLD.

ONE PERSON TOLD ME I SHOULD NEVER HAVE LISTENED TO
MY PARENTS AND GOT MARRIED SO YOUNG.
A FEW YEARS OLDER AND I WOULD HAVE UNDERSTOOD
THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF GETTING MARRIED.
MY STUPID PARENTS PUSHED AND PUSHED
AND IN THE END I GOT DIVORCED.
THANK G=D I HAD NO CHILDREN.

BUT WHEN THERE ARE CHILDREN THEY USE THEM AS WEAPONS.
IN THE DIVORCE NO ONE CARES ABOUT THE CHILDREN,
EACH SIDE JUST WANTS TO WIN.
BUT HOW MANY COUPLES ARE LIVING TOGETHER UNHAPPY ?
NOT WANTING TO UNDERSTAND THE OTHER PERSON
AND THE POOR CHILDREN WATCH THIS EVERY DAY.
THIS IS NOT A LETTER BUT A PRAYER
TO OUR G=D IN HEAVEN, AMEN. !

HATE MAIL

YOU DO NOT LIKE IT WHEN YOU GET  HATE MAIL.
I DO NOT LIKE IT ,WHEN YOU USE YOUR PAPER ,TO INDICATE ,THAT EVERYTHING IS ALL RIGHT IN OUR SOCIETY.
WHICH IS NOT TRUE ASK OSHER SHAPIRO AND THE DROP-OUTS.

EVEN IN YOUR OFFICE THERE ARE COUNTLESS COUPLES WHO ARE DIVORCED AND DON'T GET ALONG,
BE PLEASED I AM NOT MENTIONING NAMES .
WITH A BIT OF PROPER EDUCATION BEFORE THEY GOT MARRIED,
WHAT MARRIAGE IN THE TORAH IS ABOUT, THEY WOULD HAVE STAYED TOGETHER
BUT YOU AS ALWAYS PUSH EVERYTHING UNDER THE CARPET.

YOU WROTE ABOUT ME WITHOUT CONSULTING ME,WHICH IS WRONG .
EVEN IF YOU DO NOT PUBLISH THESE LETTERS
THEY GET FORWARDED FROM ONE TO THE OTHER AND IN A FEW DAYS THE WHOLE TOWN SEES MY POINTS .

MARRIED LIFE AND COUNSELING

MARRIAGE AND SPECIALLY THE DAY OF THE WEDDING ARE ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT DEEDS IN THE JEWISH WORLD ..
IT IS A PITY IT IS GIVEN TO YOUNGSTERS WHO DO NOT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE IT .
THE OLDER GENERATION DO NOT UNDERSTAND HOW TO GIVE OVER THIS IMPORTANT MESSAGE  TO THE YOUNGSTERS AS SOME OF THEM DO NOT KNOW IT THEMSELVES.

PARENTS OF TO-DAY TALK OPEN WHEN THEY USE BAD LANGUAGE OR WHEN THEY ARE BETWEEN GOYIUM BUT TO THEIR CHILDREN THEY DO NOT KNOW HOW TO TALK OPENLY
AND EXPLAIN THE DUTY OF A YID IN MARRIED LIFE .
THAT THROUGH LOVING YOUR WIFE DEARLY FIRST THROUGH DESIRE AND THEN HOPEFULLY SPIRITUALLY.

YOU LEARN BAZRUS HASEAM  TO LOVE G-D WITH ALL YOUR HEART.
THE LOVE AND RESPECT OF TWO DIFFERENT PEOPLE LIVING TOGETHER WILL TEACH YOU TO LOVE
BUT THAT IS A LESSON WHICH CHANGES AS LIFE GOES ON .

THIS GIVES YOU CHILDREN WHO ARE PRODUCED FROM A HIGHER LEVEL OF LIFE AND A GOY AND MOST YIDEN WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND THAT
MARRIAGE COUNSELLING NEEDS TO BE GIVEN BY RABONIM WHEN THEY ARE CHOSEN AND KALLE AS MANY HAVE NOT SEEN THIS HIGHER LEVEL OF LIFE FROM THEIR PARENTS.