I HAVE NEVER READ SUCH A BRILLIANT ARTICLE IN THE " HERE AND THERE"
OF THE JEWISH TRIBUNE 6 SEPTEMBER 2012.
JOE WRITES:
NOW THAT IT IS ALL OVER , BAR THE SHOUTING,LET US HONESTLY CONSIDER
WHETHER THE PROBLEM OF THOSE WHO
" STRAY FROM THE PATH "
HAS BEEN FULLY ERADICATED BY THROWING THE INTERNET ON THE GARBAGE HEAP.
FIRSTLY, LET US RECOGNISE THE FACT THAT THE PROBLEM
OF THOSE WHO DIGRESS, EXISTED LONG BEFORE THE INTERNET
AND EVEN NOW,IT WOULD BE SHORT-SIGHTED TO ASSUME
THAT EVERY REBELLING AGAINST THE LIFESTYLE OF EHRLICHER PARENTS
IS DUE TO THE INTERNET.
WE HAVE TO ASK OURSELVES:
HAVE THE PARENTS GOT THE RIGHT PERSONAL CONTACT WITH EACH AND
EVERY ONE OF THEIR CHILDREN ? ?
FATHER AND MOTHER, WHEN HAVE YOU HAD A CASUAL CHIT CHAT WITH YOUR CHILDREN
HOW DO YOU PARENTS FASHION THEIR LIFE TOGETHER " SHREIEREI " AND ARGUMENTS
WHICH WILL MAKE CHILDREN HAVE A BAD EXPERIENCE AND ATMOSPHERE OF THE HOME.
DO THE CHILDREN FEEL WANTED AND NOT A BURDEN ON THE PARENTS ? ? ?
IT IS A PITY THAT THIS WEEK'S ASSIFA AND GEDOLEI YISROEL DID NOT
CONCENTRATE ON THESE POINTS ! !
ON THE MOST IMPORTANT FACTOR IN KEEPING ONE'S CHILDREN WITHIN THE TORAH
FRAMEWORK, IS TO SHOW THEM LOVE ! ! AND WARMTH AS WELL AS
UNDERSTANDING OF THEIR INNER PROBLEMS.
GABY LOCK
gaby5706@gmail.com
I HAVE A SON IN MANCHESTER AND A SON IN JERUSALEM.
I TALK ON THE TELEPHONE AT LEAST ONCE A DAY
TO EACH OF THEM, ALSO TO MY GRANDCHILDREN A FEW TIMES A WEEK.
I WAS TALKING TO SOMEONE TODAY AT THE STAMFORD-HILL
"START THE DAY".
HE WAS A LITVISHE PERSON. HE TOLD ME HE IS GOING TO
HIS CHILDREN IN MANCHESTER FOR PESACH.
HE SAID THAT HE HAS NOT TALKED TO HIS SON FOR MONTHS ! !
THIS IS ONE OF THE TEN COMMANDMENTS,
TO HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER.
THIS IS NOT THE FAULT OF THE CHILD ,THIS IS THE FAULT OF THE PARENTS
AND THIER RABBIS .
AS THEY HAVE NOT TAUGHT THE CHILDREN
RESPECT FOR PARENTS.
THIS IS JUST AS BAD BY THE CHASIDISHE.
THEY HAVE TWO MONTHS A YEAR
WHEN THEY CAN GIVE RESPECT AND SHOW LOVE AND CARE TO THEIR
FATHERS AND MOTHERS. THEY NEED IT,
TO BE BY THE REBBE IS MORE IMPORTANT.
THEN WE WONDER WHEN THEY GET DIVORCED.
THEY HAVE NEVER LEARNED TO RESPECT ANOTHER PERSON
LIFE IS ONLY WHAT THEY WANT.
I HAD TO ASK A BOCHER DO YOU KISS YOUR MOTHER
A MOTHER NEEDS IT
THANK G=D MY CHILDREN KISS THERE PARENTS
AND SHOW THEM RESPECT AND LOVE
AND THEN THEY KNOW HOW TO LOVE G=D
I SIT ON THE SIDELINES AND WATCH WITH A BROKEN HEART,
WHAT IS HAPPENING BY YIDEN.
I DO NOT OPEN MY MOUTH
AS THERE ARE NOT ANY EARS WHO WANT TO LISTEN.
IF WE WANT TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM OF DIVORCES
WE HAVE TO RAISE THE AGE
A BOY GETS MARRIED AT 21 AND A GIRL A BIT YOUNGER AT 20.
ALSO A BOY AND A GIRL SHOULD GO TO A
RABBI OR PSYCHOLOGIST
TO SEE IF THEY UNDERSTAND WHAT THEY ARE DOING.
THIS IS A LIFE TIME OF BENDING TO EACH OTHER'S WAY.
I WATCH SO MANY COUPLES IN THE SHOPS WITH MY WIFE.
ONE DOES NOT UNDERSTAND THE OTHER ABOUT
THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF LIFE
AND "OY VAY " THE POOR CHILDREN THEY HAVE BROUGHT INTO THIS WORLD.
ONE PERSON TOLD ME I SHOULD NEVER HAVE LISTENED TO
MY PARENTS AND GOT MARRIED SO YOUNG.
A FEW YEARS OLDER AND I WOULD HAVE UNDERSTOOD
THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF GETTING MARRIED.
MY STUPID PARENTS PUSHED AND PUSHED
AND IN THE END I GOT DIVORCED.
THANK G=D I HAD NO CHILDREN.
BUT WHEN THERE ARE CHILDREN THEY USE THEM AS WEAPONS.
IN THE DIVORCE NO ONE CARES ABOUT THE CHILDREN,
EACH SIDE JUST WANTS TO WIN.
BUT HOW MANY COUPLES ARE LIVING TOGETHER UNHAPPY ?
NOT WANTING TO UNDERSTAND THE OTHER PERSON
AND THE POOR CHILDREN WATCH THIS EVERY DAY.
THIS IS NOT A LETTER BUT A PRAYER
TO OUR G=D IN HEAVEN, AMEN. !
I WAS PLEASED TO READ TWO LETTERS 11 AUGUST 2011.
ONE IN THE JEWISH TRIBUNE BY MENASCHE SCHARF, AND THE SECOND ONE BY YITZCHOK KORNBLUH IN THE HAMODIA.
THESE TWO STORIES ARE THE REAL CHILLUL HASHEM ,IN OUR COMMUNITY.
NOT GABY LOCK WITH HIS DEAR WIFE, GOING ON TELEVISION EXPLAINING WHAT IS TRUE YIDDISHKEIT.
MR ALEX STROM DO YO U GET THE MESSAGE ? ?
ALSO MR YAKOV OSTRICHER OF SATMAR 26 C.C. ? ?
IN THE HAMODIA MR YITZCHOK KORNBLUH WRITES:
"I WAS SHOCKED AND SADDENED AS EVERYBODY ELSE WAS OF THE OCCURRENCE IN TOTTENHAM,NORTH LONDON ON SATURDAY NIGHT FOLLOWING THE DEATH OF A YOUNG MAN".
WHAT IS MORE DISTURBING IS THAT SOME MEMBERS OF OUR COMMUNITY WERE SEEN BY THE WORLD MEDIA, IN FULL CHASSIDIC REGALIA MILLING, AROUND ALMOST IN CARNIVAL MODE AMONGST THESE RIOTERS.
HAVE OUR PEOPLE TAKEN LEAVE OF THEIR SENSES ?? ? ? ?
WOMEN WERE SEEN WHEELING BABIES IN BUGGIES, WHERE ARE THE BRAINS OF THESE FAMILIES IN TURNING UP,
AT SUCH EVENTS, RUTHLESS THUGS WHO WOULD STOP AT NOTHING TO THRUST A KNIFE INTO AN INNOCENT AND UNCONNECTED BYSTANDER.
MENASCHE SCHARF WRITES IN THE JEWISH TRIBUNE:
HE SAW A YONG BOCHUR , MERELY THIRTEEN ,WAITING TO CATCH A LIFT TO GOLDERS GREEN FROM FINSBURY PARK OF ALL PLACES THE MORNING AFTER A SECOND NIGHT OF LOOTING AND RIOTS.
JUST WEEKS AFTER THE TERRIBLE "LEIBELE "ATROCITY AND THIS BOY IS LOOKING FOR A LIFT FROM STRANGERS.
"HOW COULD I EXPLAIN THE GRAVE CONSEQUENCES WITHOUT RUNNING THE RISK OF BEING LABELLED A RAVING LUNATIC FOR SUGGESTING TO A YIDDISHE MAMMA THAT SHE DOESN'T CARE ENOUGH FOR HER CHILD" .
MR KORNBLUH AND MR SCHARF, I SEE LOTS OF TIMES PARENTS WHO, WHEN THEY GET MARRIED AT SEVENTEEN NEVER UNDERSTOOD THAT BY EIGHTEEN THEY COULD BE A PARENT
AND ARE NOT READY TO LOOK AFTER THIS CHILD.
IF THE RABBONIM AND LAY LEADERS DO NOT OPEN THEIR EYES AND MOUTH WE WILL HAVE TRAGEDY AFTER TRAGEDY
CHASH VESHOLAM.
