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Sunday 3 November 2013

THE BOYS FROM JAPAN

AVROHOM  BARCHORIM

ARON NEZRI

NOSON BINYOMIN BINDINGER

HAVE PUT AN ADD IN THE LAST WEEKS JEWISH TRIBUNE 31/10/2013.
HELP OUR CHOSON  REPORT FROM JAPAN, 
I THINK THAT WITH ALL THE MONEY AND EFFORT THESE BOYS HAVE COST THE JEWISH PEOPLE.
HOW MANY BOYS, CHILDREN, AND FAMILIES COULD HAVE BEEN HELPED.
AFTER THE LAST BOY WAS RELEASED ( four and half years in prison )
LOTS OF STORIES CAME OUT ABOUT THEM AND I DO NOT THINK THAT THEY WERE THE PICK OF THE BUNCH.
SO JUST MARRY THEM OF QUIETLY, BORUCH HASHEM.  
 DO NOT PORTRAY THEM AS THE IDEAL YESHIVA BOCHUR.
ALSO I WANT TO GIVE A BROCHE TO THESE THREE,
THERE ARE LOTS OF PEOPLE WHO NEED GENUINE HELP.                                                     GO AND HELP THEM.

THE VAAD

THE Vaad Lema'an Toihar Hamachaneh
of the Union of Orthodox Hebrew Congregations

HAD AN ADVERT IN NEWS UPDATE 24 OCTOBER 2013.

THIS IS THE ADVERT:
Following the notice publicized by the Vaad on the
13th Sivan 5773 condemning the practice of using
tailoring establishments where Gidrei Kedusha and
Tzneius are being violated, we wish to inform the
public that nothing has changed and we have received
fresh reports of unsavoury incidents. We therefore
wish to repeat clearly that it is strongly advised NOT
to use such establishments. This advice is in force till
the Vaad retracts in writing.

NUMBER ONE:
HOW DOES A  FRUM JEWISH WOMAN GO TO A MAN TAILOR IN THE FIRST PLACE ?
SHE IS ASKING FOR TROUBLE. ! !                                                                                           NUMBER TWO:
DO THE VAAD THINK THAT A JEWISH WOMAN WHO WENT TO A MAN -TAILOR, CARES ABOUT THEIR ADDVERT IN THE NEWSUPDATE ?
NUMBER THREE:
WHAT IS THE VAAD GOING TO RETRACT ?
THAT A FRUM JEWISH WOMAN MAY GO TO A MAN-TAILOR ?
NUMBER FOUR:
UNSAVOURY INCIDENTS HAPPEN WHEN WOMEN GO TO RABONIM OR LAY LEADERS  ETC,ETC,TO TALK THEIR PROBLEMS OUT.
ALL PROBLEMS IN LIFE MUST BE BROUGHT TO A FULL BETH DIN, NOT INDIVIDUAL
RABBONIM OR LAY LEADERS.  
AND TO FINISH,  ON THE MOST IMPORTANT POINT; MY WIFE WENT TO A GOYISHE
SCHOOL IN HOLLAND ( as there was no Jewish school ).
A JEW HAS TO KNOW AND PRACTISE RESTRAINT, HE CAN NOT DO EVERYTHING THE GOY ( or not religious Jew) DOES, EVEN IF HAS TO MIX WITH THEM.

BUT A TAILOR, EVERY JEWISH WOMAN SHOULD KNOW THAT ! ! ! ! !

Thursday 31 October 2013

JEWISH MARRIAGE

IN THE  JEWISH  MARRIAGE CEREMONY WE MAKE A BLESSINGS FOR THE BRIDE AND GROOM UNDER THE CHUPAH, ALSO THE WHOLE SEVEN DAYS OF THE SHEVA BROCHES.
THE REASON, SEX IN THE MARRIAGE IS NOT EVEN TOUCHED UPON, ONLY IN THE LAST OF THE SEVEN BROCHES WE MENTION:
PLEASURE, DELIGHT, LOVE, BROTHERHOOD, PEACE AND COMPANIONSHIP.
RABBI SHMUEL WOSSNER TOLD ME ONCE THAT WE HAVE TO SAY THIS BROCHE
AND IT IS VERY IMPORTANT.
IF YOU DO NOT ASK THIS FROM THE RIBONO SHEL OLAM,
THAT IN YOUR MARRIAGE YOU SHOULD HAVE LOVE, BROTHERHOOD AND PEACE
FROM YOUR PARTNER,
THEN IT DOES NOT MATTER HOW MUCH YOU DESIRE YOUR PARTNER,
YOU WILL NEVER HAVE TRUE LOVE.
AS TRUE LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP IS A PRESENT FROM G=D.                  
 ( TO LEARN TO LOVE G=D )
AND WITHOUT YOU PRAYING AND REQUESTING IT,YOU WILL NEVER GET IT.
HAVING LOVE FOR ONE ANOTHER IS BROUGHT THROUGH THE THIRD PARTNER IN A MARRIAGE. THAT IS G=D ! !
THAT IS WHY RABBIS DANCE A MITZVAH DANCE.
THEY ARE NOT ONLY DANCING FOR THE BRIDE AND GROOM, ( BUT AT THE THIRD PARTY PRESENT ) G=D WHO IS PRESENT AT EVERY MARRIAGE.
THEY ARE PRAYING  THAT G=D WILL PUT INTO THIS MARRIAGE LOVE, BROTHERHOOD AND PEACE.
THE YETZER HORAH HAS MADE THE MITZVAH DANCE INTO ENTERTAINMENT
AND MARRIAGE INTO SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP.
 WHAT A PITY! ! !

GLUCK BAND AND RABBI DENDEROWICZ


AGUDAS YISROEL (YISHMOEL)


Sunday 27 October 2013

SEXUAL ATTRACTION

I WAS TALKING WITH A FEW YOUNG PEOPLE ABOUT LAST WEEKS SEDRA THAT 
AVROHOM  HAD A CHILD FIRST AT EIGHTY SIX AND THEN  AT NEARLY A HUNDRED.
EVEN IN AVROHOM'S TIME IT WAS CONSIDERED AN ACHIEVEMENT.
THEY SAID THAT A MAN CAN DO IT FOR EVER AN EVER.
I WAS SURPRISED THAT THEY DID  NOT KNOW THE FACTS OF LIFE
AND THAT YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH A WIFE  WHICH 
DOES NOT INVOLVE  "LADIES AND GENTLEMAN".
ONE OF THESE YOUNG PEOPLE WAS SO SHOCKED THAT HE SAID TO ME YOU CAN TAKE VIAGRA AND GO ON FOR EVER AND EVER.
I SAID TO HIM THAT THE BODY DIES OVER THE YEARS.
 THE REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS OF A MAN DIE BETWEEN 50 AND 70. 
MOST MEN AT SEVENTY DO NOT HAVE OR ARE ABLE TO HAVE A SEXUAL LIFE AS IN THE YOUNGER YEARS.
ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE LIKE ME, YOU HAVE DIABETES TWO.
I WAS ONCE, YEARS AGO BY DAYAN AHARON DOVID DUNNER'S SHIUR THAT A MAN CAN GO ON FOR EVER AND EVER.
I SAID TO HIM THIS IS NOT TRUE AND YOU CAN NOT BUILD YOUR MARRIAGE AROUND THIS.
THE WOMAN GET PAST IT AND SO DO THE MAN.
YOU HAVE TO BUILD YOUR MARRIAGE AROUND MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING AND
LOVE AND CARING FOR EACH OTHER, SEX ALONE IS A MISTAKE TO BE AN 
ATTRACTION BECAUSE THIS DIES LONG,LONG, BEFORE YOU ACTUALLY DIE.
WE HAD A DR BY THE SHIUR AT THAT TIME, DR SPITZER AND HE CONFIRMED WHAT I SAID.
I WAS SURPRISED AT THE IGNORANCE OF SO MANY YOUNG AND OLDER PEOPLE
 THE BOTTOM LINE IS DO NOT BUILD YOUR MARRIAGE AROUND SEXUAL ATTRACTION.

Thursday 24 October 2013

LEARNING TO BE COME ONE

AS YOU WILL HAVE NOTICED I HAVE BEEN A WAY ON HOLIDAY OVER THE YOM TOV PERIOD .
I WAS NOT SURPRISED TO HERE THAT IN THE FEW WEEKS BEFORE YOM TO 
THE UNION OF HEBREW CONGREGATION OF RABBI PADWAH
HAD GIVEN 22 GITEN. LOTS OF PEOPLE SAID TO ME THEY DO NOT UNDERSTAND
RABBI PADWAH
I SAID I UNDERSTAND HIM VERY WELL 
HE IS A ROV AND NOT A COUNSELOR IT IS NOT HIS JOB TO KEEP PEOPLE 
TOGETHER, SPECIALLY IF BOTH SIDES AGREE TO A GET ( DIVORCE )
ONE OF THE RABBIS ONCE SAID TO ME, DID THEY ASK ME WHEN THEY GOT
MARRIED  ?  IF I THINK THE GIRL OR BOY ARE MATURE ENOUGH TO GET MARRIED ?
THE PROBLEM STARTS  WITH THE PARENTS, A BOY AND GIRL HAVE TO BE EXPLAINED WHAT BEING MARRIED IS ALL ABOUT.
THEY TEACH THEM IN SCHOOL ARTS AND CRAFTS ETC. ETC.
THEY MARRY THEM OF YOUNG, ESPECIALLY THE BOYS SO THEY SHOULD NOT STRAY.
THE GIRLS ARE NOT TAUGHT THAT THEY HAVE TO DRESS ATTRACTIVE, NOT ONLY
 WHEN THEY GO TO A CHASSENE.
BUT ALSO FRIDAY NIGHT WHEN THE HUSBAND COMES HOME FROM THE BEIS HAMEDRASH.
MY WIFE HAS ALWAYS DRESSED FRIDAY NIGHT AS IF SHE IS GOING TO A WEDDING.
ON MY WAY HOME FRIDAY NIGHT I SEE SOME OF THESE YOUNG WOMEN THEY DO NOT LOOK TWENTY FIVE BUT FIFTY. 
THEY WEAR NO WIG JUST A BIG SHMATTE ON THEIR HEAD OR WHITE TIECHEL, THEY WEAR THE SO CALLED SHABBOS-GOWNS WITH NO UNDERWEAR UNDERNEATH.
I AM NOT SURPRISED WHEN THESE HUSBANDS  STRAY AND WANT A DIVORCE,
ON THE OTHER  HAND THE BOYS HAVE NEVER BEEN TAUGHT THE ART OF LIVING
TOGETHER WITH A PARTNER, ( HAVE THE GIRLS ? ? ) AS THE TORAH SAYS
AND THEY SHALL BE ONE FLESH, G=D WANTS A MAN AND WOMAN TO BE AS ONE 
UNIT.
AS THE LEV SIMCHA OF GUR TOLD ME BEFORE MY MARRIAGE :  " A JEWISH MARRIAGE IS TO MAKE YOUR HOUSEHOLD ONE UNIT. " MAN AND WOMAN ARE ONE.
 I HAVE NOT STARTED ABOUT THE PROBLEMS THAT COME WHEN THEY HAVE CHILDREN.



Sunday 1 September 2013

WHITE LIES

AS A PSYCHIATRIST, YOUR GREATEST ASSET IS YOUR PATIENTS TRUST IN YOU.
" DO NOT  JEOPARDIZE  IT "
I AM CONVINCED THE MEDICAL DIRECTOR WAS RIGHT,  I NO LONGER TELL " WHITE LIES"  OR LIES OF ANY COLOUR, EVEN IF I CAN JUSTIFY THEM.
THE TORAH SAYS " YOU SHALL NOT LIE.                                                                                
 " THEN ADDS KEEP YOUR DISTANCE FROM FALSEHOOD "
THIS IS THE ONLY TIME THE TORAH FORBIDS SOMETHING THAT MIGHT LEAD TO A VIOLATION.
THIS IS IMPORTANT NOT ONLY  IN THE DOCTOR-PATIENT RELATIONSHIP, BUT IN ALL
RELATIONSHIPS.
IT IS OF SPECIAL IMPORTANCE IN MARRIAGE,BECAUSE THE BASIS OF MARRIAGE IS TRUST, AND IT SHOULD NOT BE JEOPARDISED.IF HUSBAND AND WIFE COMMIT THEMSELVES TO ABSOLUTE TRUTHFULNESS, THE MARRIAGE CAN WITHSTAND MANY STRESSES.
YOU MAY FIND A WAY TO CONVINCE YOURSELF THAT A PARTICULAR UNTRUTH IS NOT A VIOLATION OF THE TORAH ( ISSUR ).
EVEN IF YOU ARE RIGHT, THE FACT REMAINS THAT THE OTHER PERSON WILL FEEL THAT YOU LIED,AND HIS OR HER TRUST IN YOU IS UNDERMINED.
WHEN YEARS AGO I SUGGESTED  " MEET AND GREET "  AS A TRUE FRIENDSHIP GROUP
FOR LOTS OF LONELY PEOPLE TO COME TOGETHER.
MEET AND  JUST TALK HONESTLY WITH ONE ANOTHER WITH NO MOTIVE OF RAISING FUNDS FOR ZADOKA, JUST HONEST AND TRUE FRIENDSHIPS,WHICH REALLY EVERY  PERSON SHOULD HAVE WITH THEIR PARTNER.