LEARNING TO BE COME ONE

AS YOU WILL HAVE NOTICED I HAVE BEEN A WAY ON HOLIDAY OVER THE YOM TOV PERIOD .
I WAS NOT SURPRISED TO HERE THAT IN THE FEW WEEKS BEFORE YOM TO 
THE UNION OF HEBREW CONGREGATION OF RABBI PADWAH
HAD GIVEN 22 GITEN. LOTS OF PEOPLE SAID TO ME THEY DO NOT UNDERSTAND
RABBI PADWAH
I SAID I UNDERSTAND HIM VERY WELL 
HE IS A ROV AND NOT A COUNSELOR IT IS NOT HIS JOB TO KEEP PEOPLE 
TOGETHER, SPECIALLY IF BOTH SIDES AGREE TO A GET ( DIVORCE )
ONE OF THE RABBIS ONCE SAID TO ME, DID THEY ASK ME WHEN THEY GOT
MARRIED  ?  IF I THINK THE GIRL OR BOY ARE MATURE ENOUGH TO GET MARRIED ?
THE PROBLEM STARTS  WITH THE PARENTS, A BOY AND GIRL HAVE TO BE EXPLAINED WHAT BEING MARRIED IS ALL ABOUT.
THEY TEACH THEM IN SCHOOL ARTS AND CRAFTS ETC. ETC.
THEY MARRY THEM OF YOUNG, ESPECIALLY THE BOYS SO THEY SHOULD NOT STRAY.
THE GIRLS ARE NOT TAUGHT THAT THEY HAVE TO DRESS ATTRACTIVE, NOT ONLY
 WHEN THEY GO TO A CHASSENE.
BUT ALSO FRIDAY NIGHT WHEN THE HUSBAND COMES HOME FROM THE BEIS HAMEDRASH.
MY WIFE HAS ALWAYS DRESSED FRIDAY NIGHT AS IF SHE IS GOING TO A WEDDING.
ON MY WAY HOME FRIDAY NIGHT I SEE SOME OF THESE YOUNG WOMEN THEY DO NOT LOOK TWENTY FIVE BUT FIFTY. 
THEY WEAR NO WIG JUST A BIG SHMATTE ON THEIR HEAD OR WHITE TIECHEL, THEY WEAR THE SO CALLED SHABBOS-GOWNS WITH NO UNDERWEAR UNDERNEATH.
I AM NOT SURPRISED WHEN THESE HUSBANDS  STRAY AND WANT A DIVORCE,
ON THE OTHER  HAND THE BOYS HAVE NEVER BEEN TAUGHT THE ART OF LIVING
TOGETHER WITH A PARTNER, ( HAVE THE GIRLS ? ? ) AS THE TORAH SAYS
AND THEY SHALL BE ONE FLESH, G=D WANTS A MAN AND WOMAN TO BE AS ONE 
UNIT.
AS THE LEV SIMCHA OF GUR TOLD ME BEFORE MY MARRIAGE :  " A JEWISH MARRIAGE IS TO MAKE YOUR HOUSEHOLD ONE UNIT. " MAN AND WOMAN ARE ONE.
 I HAVE NOT STARTED ABOUT THE PROBLEMS THAT COME WHEN THEY HAVE CHILDREN.