SEXUAL ATTRACTION

I WAS TALKING WITH A FEW YOUNG PEOPLE ABOUT LAST WEEKS SEDRA THAT 
AVROHOM  HAD A CHILD FIRST AT EIGHTY SIX AND THEN  AT NEARLY A HUNDRED.
EVEN IN AVROHOM'S TIME IT WAS CONSIDERED AN ACHIEVEMENT.
THEY SAID THAT A MAN CAN DO IT FOR EVER AN EVER.
I WAS SURPRISED THAT THEY DID  NOT KNOW THE FACTS OF LIFE
AND THAT YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH A WIFE  WHICH 
DOES NOT INVOLVE  "LADIES AND GENTLEMAN".
ONE OF THESE YOUNG PEOPLE WAS SO SHOCKED THAT HE SAID TO ME YOU CAN TAKE VIAGRA AND GO ON FOR EVER AND EVER.
I SAID TO HIM THAT THE BODY DIES OVER THE YEARS.
 THE REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS OF A MAN DIE BETWEEN 50 AND 70. 
MOST MEN AT SEVENTY DO NOT HAVE OR ARE ABLE TO HAVE A SEXUAL LIFE AS IN THE YOUNGER YEARS.
ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE LIKE ME, YOU HAVE DIABETES TWO.
I WAS ONCE, YEARS AGO BY DAYAN AHARON DOVID DUNNER'S SHIUR THAT A MAN CAN GO ON FOR EVER AND EVER.
I SAID TO HIM THIS IS NOT TRUE AND YOU CAN NOT BUILD YOUR MARRIAGE AROUND THIS.
THE WOMAN GET PAST IT AND SO DO THE MAN.
YOU HAVE TO BUILD YOUR MARRIAGE AROUND MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING AND
LOVE AND CARING FOR EACH OTHER, SEX ALONE IS A MISTAKE TO BE AN 
ATTRACTION BECAUSE THIS DIES LONG,LONG, BEFORE YOU ACTUALLY DIE.
WE HAD A DR BY THE SHIUR AT THAT TIME, DR SPITZER AND HE CONFIRMED WHAT I SAID.
I WAS SURPRISED AT THE IGNORANCE OF SO MANY YOUNG AND OLDER PEOPLE
 THE BOTTOM LINE IS DO NOT BUILD YOUR MARRIAGE AROUND SEXUAL ATTRACTION.

LEARNING TO BE COME ONE

AS YOU WILL HAVE NOTICED I HAVE BEEN A WAY ON HOLIDAY OVER THE YOM TOV PERIOD .
I WAS NOT SURPRISED TO HERE THAT IN THE FEW WEEKS BEFORE YOM TO 
THE UNION OF HEBREW CONGREGATION OF RABBI PADWAH
HAD GIVEN 22 GITEN. LOTS OF PEOPLE SAID TO ME THEY DO NOT UNDERSTAND
RABBI PADWAH
I SAID I UNDERSTAND HIM VERY WELL 
HE IS A ROV AND NOT A COUNSELOR IT IS NOT HIS JOB TO KEEP PEOPLE 
TOGETHER, SPECIALLY IF BOTH SIDES AGREE TO A GET ( DIVORCE )
ONE OF THE RABBIS ONCE SAID TO ME, DID THEY ASK ME WHEN THEY GOT
MARRIED  ?  IF I THINK THE GIRL OR BOY ARE MATURE ENOUGH TO GET MARRIED ?
THE PROBLEM STARTS  WITH THE PARENTS, A BOY AND GIRL HAVE TO BE EXPLAINED WHAT BEING MARRIED IS ALL ABOUT.
THEY TEACH THEM IN SCHOOL ARTS AND CRAFTS ETC. ETC.
THEY MARRY THEM OF YOUNG, ESPECIALLY THE BOYS SO THEY SHOULD NOT STRAY.
THE GIRLS ARE NOT TAUGHT THAT THEY HAVE TO DRESS ATTRACTIVE, NOT ONLY
 WHEN THEY GO TO A CHASSENE.
BUT ALSO FRIDAY NIGHT WHEN THE HUSBAND COMES HOME FROM THE BEIS HAMEDRASH.
MY WIFE HAS ALWAYS DRESSED FRIDAY NIGHT AS IF SHE IS GOING TO A WEDDING.
ON MY WAY HOME FRIDAY NIGHT I SEE SOME OF THESE YOUNG WOMEN THEY DO NOT LOOK TWENTY FIVE BUT FIFTY. 
THEY WEAR NO WIG JUST A BIG SHMATTE ON THEIR HEAD OR WHITE TIECHEL, THEY WEAR THE SO CALLED SHABBOS-GOWNS WITH NO UNDERWEAR UNDERNEATH.
I AM NOT SURPRISED WHEN THESE HUSBANDS  STRAY AND WANT A DIVORCE,
ON THE OTHER  HAND THE BOYS HAVE NEVER BEEN TAUGHT THE ART OF LIVING
TOGETHER WITH A PARTNER, ( HAVE THE GIRLS ? ? ) AS THE TORAH SAYS
AND THEY SHALL BE ONE FLESH, G=D WANTS A MAN AND WOMAN TO BE AS ONE 
UNIT.
AS THE LEV SIMCHA OF GUR TOLD ME BEFORE MY MARRIAGE :  " A JEWISH MARRIAGE IS TO MAKE YOUR HOUSEHOLD ONE UNIT. " MAN AND WOMAN ARE ONE.
 I HAVE NOT STARTED ABOUT THE PROBLEMS THAT COME WHEN THEY HAVE CHILDREN.

SAMET ON BOAT ANTWERPEN

WHITE LIES

AS A PSYCHIATRIST, YOUR GREATEST ASSET IS YOUR PATIENTS TRUST IN YOU.
" DO NOT  JEOPARDIZE  IT "
I AM CONVINCED THE MEDICAL DIRECTOR WAS RIGHT,  I NO LONGER TELL " WHITE LIES"  OR LIES OF ANY COLOUR, EVEN IF I CAN JUSTIFY THEM.
THE TORAH SAYS " YOU SHALL NOT LIE.                                                                                
 " THEN ADDS KEEP YOUR DISTANCE FROM FALSEHOOD "
THIS IS THE ONLY TIME THE TORAH FORBIDS SOMETHING THAT MIGHT LEAD TO A VIOLATION.
THIS IS IMPORTANT NOT ONLY  IN THE DOCTOR-PATIENT RELATIONSHIP, BUT IN ALL
RELATIONSHIPS.
IT IS OF SPECIAL IMPORTANCE IN MARRIAGE,BECAUSE THE BASIS OF MARRIAGE IS TRUST, AND IT SHOULD NOT BE JEOPARDISED.IF HUSBAND AND WIFE COMMIT THEMSELVES TO ABSOLUTE TRUTHFULNESS, THE MARRIAGE CAN WITHSTAND MANY STRESSES.
YOU MAY FIND A WAY TO CONVINCE YOURSELF THAT A PARTICULAR UNTRUTH IS NOT A VIOLATION OF THE TORAH ( ISSUR ).
EVEN IF YOU ARE RIGHT, THE FACT REMAINS THAT THE OTHER PERSON WILL FEEL THAT YOU LIED,AND HIS OR HER TRUST IN YOU IS UNDERMINED.
WHEN YEARS AGO I SUGGESTED  " MEET AND GREET "  AS A TRUE FRIENDSHIP GROUP
FOR LOTS OF LONELY PEOPLE TO COME TOGETHER.
MEET AND  JUST TALK HONESTLY WITH ONE ANOTHER WITH NO MOTIVE OF RAISING FUNDS FOR ZADOKA, JUST HONEST AND TRUE FRIENDSHIPS,WHICH REALLY EVERY  PERSON SHOULD HAVE WITH THEIR PARTNER.

Meet the Rabbi Whose Business Smarts Have Attracted Google

(Wednesday, August 28th, 2013)

“Does anyone here not know what a Kindle is?” asks the man leading a $180 business seminar at Jerusalem’s Ramada hotel on a recent evening, his side curls swinging as he takes a quick look around the crowded room.
It may be a strange question to pose to budding entrepreneurs, but some of Rabbi Issamar Ginzberg’s clients come from the ultra-Orthodox Jewish community, where some consider Internet and TV taboo and many maintain a lifestyle built around tradition that has little need for modern technology.
As a scion of prominent Hasidic rabbis himself, Rabbi Ginzberg is steeped in this community and its religious sensitivities; his family, he says, traces its roots back through rabbinical dynasties to King David and even Adam and Eve.

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I HAVE MET RABBI GINZBERG IN LONDON AT ONE OF HIS MEETINGS HE TALKS WELL, SPECIALLY ABOUT ALL OF US ORTHODOX BEING ABLE TO BE BUDDING ENTREPRENEURS.          HE TELLS HIS LISTENERS ALL THEY HAVE TO DO TO BE ENTREPRENEURS IS LEARN HOW TO SPEAK.                                      RABBI GINZBERG AND HIS FRIENDS ARE BA'ALE TESHUVA.              BE WARNED THEY HAVE LEARNED THIS CON IN THE WORLD THEY COME FROM.

AN

NEWS UPDATE

THERE ARE TWO MAGNIFICENT LETTERS IN THIS WEEKS' UPDATE 22/08/2013.
IT IS A PITY THAT THE SECOND ONE DID NOT HAVE,  THE GUTS LIKE RABBI J.J. ROSNER TO WRITE HER NAME , JUST CHAYA .K.
RABBI ROSNER IS RIGHT, IGNORANT PEOPLE GIVE THEIR OPINION ON THINGS THAT THEY HAVE NO IDEA OF.
CHAYA WRITES THAT THE TIME HAS COME FOR THE RABBONIM TO TAKE ISSUE
WITH PEOPLES SPENDING ATTITUDE.
CHAYA. FIRST OF ALL, RABBONIM ARE NOT THERE TO SOLVE ALL THE SPENDING 
PROBLEMS AND MARRIAGE PROBLEMS IN OUR COMMUNITY.
THEIR JOB IS LIKE A GARAGE, A MECHANIC HE FIXES THE CAR SO THAT IT WORKS  PROPERLY.
HOW YOU DRIVE IS NOT THE MECHANICS' PROBLEM.
THE RABBONIM ARE THERE TO SHOW AND TELL YOU THE TRUE TORAH WAY IN LIFE,         
EVEN IF SOMETIMES YOU WILL FIND A FAULT IN THE RABBONIM AS WE ALL WANT MONEY.
A RABBI OR ROV OF A COMMUNITY SPECIALLY IN TO-DAYS' WORLD DOES NOT HAVE TO BE PERFECT HIMSELF AND CAN STILL TELL YOU A TRUE TORAH OPINION.
WHEN MY DEAR WIFE LOOKS AROUND ON TO-DAY'S WORLD,
SHE HAS A SAYING  "THERE ARE MORE OUT THAN IN."
LAST WEEK IT WAS VERY WARM, WHEN I WAS WALKING TO MY SHIUR I SAW A YOUNG  LADY WITH A CHILD IN A BUGGY .
IT WAS DRESSED UP LIKE IN THE MIDDLE OF THE WINTER WOOLLY HAT AND ALL, BUT IT MATCHED ! ! THAT WAS ALL THAT MATTERED TO THE YOUNG MOTHER.
A QUESTION WHICH DOES BELONG TO THE RABBONIM, SHOULD WE ALLOW SUCH YOUNGSTERS  TO HAVE CHILDREN ? ?

FRIENDSHIP GROUP

I AM WRITING THIS IN LARGE LETTERS,AS IT IS A VERY IMPORTANT POINT IN LIFE.                                                                      G=D MADE A WORLD WITH ALL DIFFERENT KINDS OF PEOPLE IN IT.                                                                                                               EVEN THE JEWISH FRUM PEOPLE (SPECIALLY CHASSIDIC) HAVE ALL DIFFERENT KINDS  OF PEOPLE. THE IDEA FROM G=D MAKING THIS WORLD IS THAT WE GET ALONG WITH EACH OTHER.                                                                                                  WE ARE ASKED BY G=D TO MARRY A PARTNER WHO IS  COMPLETELY DIFFERENT AND THE ART OF LIFE IS TO GET ALONG AND TOLERATE EACH OTHER WHICH BRINGS TRUE LOVE.                                                                                                                   I AM A MEMBER OF A CLUB WHICH IS SOMETHING NEW. IT IS CALLED A FRIENDSHIP GROUP.                                                         THE PEOPLE WHO COME TO THIS GROUP ARE  LONELY, THEY COME TOGETHER NOT FOR THE OUTINGS OR THE ACTIVITIES OF THE GROUP, BUT JUST FOR THE PEOPLE TO HAVE FRIENDS, IT IS NOT LIKE OTHER GROUPS.                                                       THIS WAS THE IDEA OF THE BA-AL SHEM TOV BUT CHASIDUS HAS STRAYED AWAY FROM IT.                                                                       A JEW WHO FEELS HE HAS FRIENDS IN HIS GROUP WILL NOT STRAY FROM YIDDISHKEIT.                                                                    MY DUTY AS A JEW IS TO BE MEKAREV ( MAKE THEM FEEL NEAR ) EVERY JEW.                                                                                      A GOOD FRIENDSHIP CLUB MAKES EVERYBODY FEEL THAT THEY HAVE VALUE.                                                                                     A GOOD PARTNERSHIP IN MARRIAGE  IS NOT JUST TO HAVE A FAMILY, BUT GIVES EACH PARTNER  VALUE.                                        I HAVE TAKEN THIS IDEA TO THE GOYIM IN THE FRIENDSHIP GROUP AND IT HAS BEEN VERY SUCCESSFUL.   

FEMALE TEACHERS

A TEACHER WRITES IN THIS WEEKS UPDATE 15/08/2013
OLDER LADIES AND GIRLS HAVE BEEN WORKING AND ACCEPTED
THAT THEY EARN VERY LITTLE.,
GIRLS AND LADIES WHO TEACH ARE EXPECTED TO BE SATISFIED
WITH FAR LESS THEN COUNTERPARTS IN OTHER PROFESSIONS.

THE REASON FOR THIS IS THAT  GIRLS AND WOMEN THINK THAT A JOB AS A TEACHER IS HITTING THE JACKPOT, OF HAVING VALUE.
AS THE LETTER STATES THEY SHOULD EARN RESPECTABLE WAGES.
IF YOU ARE NOT PAID RESPECTABLE WAGES
THEN YOU SHOULD NOT THINK THAT YOU HAVE VALUE,
YOU ARE SIMPLY BEING USED,AS MOST HEIMISHE MOSDOS DO.
YOU  ARE A SHMATTE BY THE HEADS AND THE HANHOLA.

WHAT WE HAVE TO DO IS ALL GIRLS  AND LADIES WHO TEACH HAVE TO
UNITE. ( AND FIGHT FOR  PROPERER WAGES ).
I KNOW THAT SOME JEWISH SCHOOLS MAKE IT A POINT THAT YOU
MAY NOT TELL ( EVEN ANOTHER TEACHER ) HOW MUCH YOU ARE
GETTING PAID.

STRESS OF LIFE

CHILDREN

I WAS LAST NIGHT BY A FAMILY WEDDING , I FELT SORRY FOR THE CHOSON AND KALLA, AND BLESSED THEM THEY SHOULD NOT HAVE CHILDREN FOR THE FIRST FEW YEARS. 
OPPOSITE MY HOUSE TWO YOUNG GIRLS FROM A FAMILY WANTED TO EARN 
SOME MONEY SO THEY HAVE MADE A HOLIDAY PLAY SCHEME.
THE PARENTS COME THERE IN THE MORNING ( THE FATHER OR THE MOTHER )
DROP THE CHILDREN AND THEY FEEL FREE.
I WATCH OUT OF MY WINDOW AS THE SMALL CHILDREN DO NOT WANT TO STAY, THEY CRY AND RUN AFTER THE PERSON BRINGING THEM. THEY DO NOT WANT TO GO TO THE PLAY SCHEME. THEY WANT TO BE WITH THE PARENTS.
I ASK MYSELF THE QUESTION ,
 IF THE PARENTS FIND IT BOTHERSOME TO BE WITH THE CHILDREN FOR THE LAST TWO WEEKS OF THE HOLIDAYS,
WHY O WHY DID THEY HAVE CHILDREN IN THE FIRST PLACE ?
IS ONE OR TWO  CHILDREN  NOT ENOUGH ! ! !
CHILDREN HAVE TO FEEL WANTED AND VALUED,
I HAVE HAD TO TELL A FEW MOTHERS IN THE STREET, THAT YOU CAN NOT TALK ON THE MOBILE WHEN WALKING AND CROSSING THE ROAD WITH CHILDREN.
BACK TO  THE WEDDING, MOST GIRLS AND BOYS WHEN THEY GET MARRIED ARE NOT READY TO HAVE CHILDREN.