QUESTIONS

VIDEO: How To Help Our Children Go From OK To Great [Mordechai Weinberger LCSW]
(Monday, December 26th, 2011)
[VIDEO IN EXTENDED ARTICLE]
Mordechai Weinberger LCSW, along with Dr. Efrayim Nudman, M.D. Assistant Professor of Psychiatry at Cornell Medical College, Former Chief of Inpatient Psychiatric service at New York Presbyterian Hospital addressed these questions that were emailed to him:
1: All my life in Yeshiva I watched friends of mine just as smart as me make it and I somehow never made it. Now that I am working, I am finding the same story happening again. I am working just as hard as my co worker and yet he gets the raise and I don’t. Can you please tell me what I am doing wrong?
2: I want to get close to a certain group of friends. The problem is that I don’t like the same things they do. Is there anyway I can still get into this group?
3: I have a simple question to ask but I have no one to turn to, so I am asking you and hopefully you can help me. I come from a very messed up background. I can’t turn to my parents for help; I have to parent them. I am newly married and my cooking is terrible. After a few months of marriage my husband opened up to me and asked me to call his mother for recipes. I feel so embarrassed that I can’t do it. I am pretty sure I will never be a good cook because it’s not in my genes. I am watching this little problem grow into a huge fight every time he asks me to make something new. Is there any way I can have my husband accept my limitations and to learn to focus on my positive strengths?
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GABY LOCK SAYS:
READING THIS ARTICLE ABOVE IN YESHIVA WORLD:
I AM STARTING TO UNDERSTAND  THAT THESE PEOPLE
HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THE DUTY OF A JEWISH PERSON IS
AND WHY G=D MADE THIS WORLD.
IN THIS WORLD YOU HAVE MADE IT WHEN YOU KEEP THE TORAH
WITH THE QUALITIES G=D GAVE YOU.

IF YOUR FRIEND HAS A RAISE, AND YOU DO NOT,
THAT'S THE WAY G=D WANTS IT TO BE.
YOU HAVE MADE IT WITHOUT THE RAISE. YOU ARE NO MORE OR LESS,
THIS WORLD IS A TEST GROUND THAT'S WHAT YIDDISHKEIT IS ABOUT.
THE WOMAN WHO CAN COOK IS NO MORE OR LESS THEN YOU.
OVERCOMING THE TESTS IN LIFE WITH THE QUALITIES YOU HAVE
THAT'S WHAT JEWISH  LIFE IS ABOUT.
G=D WILL JUDGE IF YOU HAVE BEEN SUCCESSFUL OR NOT.

MEN AND WOMEN

“Reb Elyashiv feels that it is laudable for a private company to separate men and women, but it is impossible to obligate a public company to adopt this standard.  You can attempt to persuade them, you can explain to them that it is a wise financial move, but you cannot force a public company to do something like this,” said Chaim Cohen, a long time aide to Reb Elyashiv.

RAB ELYASHIV HAS HIS GUIDELINES FROM THE TORAH.
IF HE SAYS YOU CAN NOT OBLIGATE A PUBLIC COMPANY
TO ADOPT THIS STANDARD,
WHICH MEANS TO GO WITHIN THE LINE OF THE LAW,
BUT THE TORAH LAW DOES NOT OBLIGATE A COMPANY TO DO THIS.
OUR TZNIUS AND YIDDISHKEIT COMES FROM THE TORAH
AND NOT FROM ZEALOTS.

NO INDIVIDUAL​ITY

IN TODAYS WORLD YIDEN ARE LIKE THE GOYIM.
THEY HOVE NO INDIVIDUALITY.
MY WIFE SAYS THAT ONE COPIES THE OTHER .
THEY ALL WEAR BLACK CLOTHES.
THE SAME IS WITH THE HEAD COVERING ,
THEY ALL WEAR A SHEITEL AND SOMETHING ON TOP.

THE FRUITS FROM THE CHILDREN WHOSE MOTHERS JUST WORE SHEITELS
AND EVEN WENT TO NON JEWISH SCHOOLS
WE CAN SEE IN TO-DAYS CHILDREN.
IF THE NEXT GENERATION IS GOING TO BE AS GOOD
I DO NOT THINK SO.

THERE IS MORE TO YIDDISHE MAMMES TZNIOUS THEN JUST
ANOTHER COVERING ON THE HEAD.
I AM OLD ENOUGH TO HAVE SEEN THE WEDDINGS OF SOME OF
THE PARENTS AND EVEN THE GRAND PARENTS.

THE YOUNGSTERS OF TO-DAY NEED AND NEED.
THEY DON'T STOP SAYING I MUST HAVE THIS AND MUST HAVE THAT.
IF YOUR PARENTS WERE POOR YOU RESPECTED YOUR PARENTS.
YOU CAN NOT HAVE A WEDDING LIKE THE RICH GIRLS.
A HEAD COVERING DOES NOT MAKE YIDDISHKEIT,
BEHAVIOUR AND MIDDOS MAKES AND IS  YIDDISHKEIT.

YIDEN

I GO TO "START THE DAY THE TORAH WAY" IN STAMFORD HILL NORTH LONDON .
ON SUNDAY AND FRIDAY MORNINGS.
THE REST OF THE WEEK, I CAN NOT GO AS I HAVE SHIURIM AT THAT TIME OF THE MORNING.

ONE FRIDAY MORNING ,A SATMAR CHASID ,RABBI AHRON DOVID OSTRICHER , THE SON OF PINCHAS OSTRICHER, WHO IS THE SON OF MY DEARLY DEPARTED FRIEND RABBI GEDALIA OSTRICHER ,GAVE THE SHIUR.
HE SAID IN THE NAME OF THE DEPARTED SINGER SHLOMO CARLEBACH
WHY CAN A MIKVAH CLEAN A PERSON BECAUSE TWO DROPS OF WATER, WHEN THEY GET TOGETHER , THEY DO NOT FIGHT WHO IS GREATER BUT THEY MAKE PEACE AND BECOME ONE.

AND WHERE THERE IS PEACE THERE IS KADUSHE AND THARAH THAT IS A MIKVAH.
AHRON DOVID OSTRICHER  SAID  THAT THE AMSHINOVER REBBE IN JERUSALEM WHO IS A BIG FAN OF SHLOMO CARLBECH SAID THAT WE NEED TO SPREAD THIS TORAH OVER THE WHOLE WORLD.

SPECIALLY TO-DAY WHERE THERE IS SO MUCH  IN-FIGHTING IN CHASIDDES .
WHICH IS A  BIGGER CHILLUL HASHEM  THEN THERE HAS EVER BEEN IN YIDDISHKEIT AND HE IS NOT SURPRISED THAT THERE ARE SO MANY DROP-OUTS BY THE ORTHODOX  JEWISH PEOPLE.

I HAVE EXPLAINED ENOUGH. I DO NOT HAVE TO GO INTO MORE DETAILS.