WHITE LIES

AS A PSYCHIATRIST, YOUR GREATEST ASSET IS YOUR PATIENTS TRUST IN YOU.
" DO NOT  JEOPARDIZE  IT "
I AM CONVINCED THE MEDICAL DIRECTOR WAS RIGHT,  I NO LONGER TELL " WHITE LIES"  OR LIES OF ANY COLOUR, EVEN IF I CAN JUSTIFY THEM.
THE TORAH SAYS " YOU SHALL NOT LIE.                                                                                
 " THEN ADDS KEEP YOUR DISTANCE FROM FALSEHOOD "
THIS IS THE ONLY TIME THE TORAH FORBIDS SOMETHING THAT MIGHT LEAD TO A VIOLATION.
THIS IS IMPORTANT NOT ONLY  IN THE DOCTOR-PATIENT RELATIONSHIP, BUT IN ALL
RELATIONSHIPS.
IT IS OF SPECIAL IMPORTANCE IN MARRIAGE,BECAUSE THE BASIS OF MARRIAGE IS TRUST, AND IT SHOULD NOT BE JEOPARDISED.IF HUSBAND AND WIFE COMMIT THEMSELVES TO ABSOLUTE TRUTHFULNESS, THE MARRIAGE CAN WITHSTAND MANY STRESSES.
YOU MAY FIND A WAY TO CONVINCE YOURSELF THAT A PARTICULAR UNTRUTH IS NOT A VIOLATION OF THE TORAH ( ISSUR ).
EVEN IF YOU ARE RIGHT, THE FACT REMAINS THAT THE OTHER PERSON WILL FEEL THAT YOU LIED,AND HIS OR HER TRUST IN YOU IS UNDERMINED.
WHEN YEARS AGO I SUGGESTED  " MEET AND GREET "  AS A TRUE FRIENDSHIP GROUP
FOR LOTS OF LONELY PEOPLE TO COME TOGETHER.
MEET AND  JUST TALK HONESTLY WITH ONE ANOTHER WITH NO MOTIVE OF RAISING FUNDS FOR ZADOKA, JUST HONEST AND TRUE FRIENDSHIPS,WHICH REALLY EVERY  PERSON SHOULD HAVE WITH THEIR PARTNER.

Meet the Rabbi Whose Business Smarts Have Attracted Google

(Wednesday, August 28th, 2013)

“Does anyone here not know what a Kindle is?” asks the man leading a $180 business seminar at Jerusalem’s Ramada hotel on a recent evening, his side curls swinging as he takes a quick look around the crowded room.
It may be a strange question to pose to budding entrepreneurs, but some of Rabbi Issamar Ginzberg’s clients come from the ultra-Orthodox Jewish community, where some consider Internet and TV taboo and many maintain a lifestyle built around tradition that has little need for modern technology.
As a scion of prominent Hasidic rabbis himself, Rabbi Ginzberg is steeped in this community and its religious sensitivities; his family, he says, traces its roots back through rabbinical dynasties to King David and even Adam and Eve.

- See more at: http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/news/General+News/183515/Meet-the-Rabbi-Whose-Business-Smarts-Have-Attracted-Google.html#sthash.b7WamMZY.dpuf

I HAVE MET RABBI GINZBERG IN LONDON AT ONE OF HIS MEETINGS HE TALKS WELL, SPECIALLY ABOUT ALL OF US ORTHODOX BEING ABLE TO BE BUDDING ENTREPRENEURS.          HE TELLS HIS LISTENERS ALL THEY HAVE TO DO TO BE ENTREPRENEURS IS LEARN HOW TO SPEAK.                                      RABBI GINZBERG AND HIS FRIENDS ARE BA'ALE TESHUVA.              BE WARNED THEY HAVE LEARNED THIS CON IN THE WORLD THEY COME FROM.

AN

NEWS UPDATE

THERE ARE TWO MAGNIFICENT LETTERS IN THIS WEEKS' UPDATE 22/08/2013.
IT IS A PITY THAT THE SECOND ONE DID NOT HAVE,  THE GUTS LIKE RABBI J.J. ROSNER TO WRITE HER NAME , JUST CHAYA .K.
RABBI ROSNER IS RIGHT, IGNORANT PEOPLE GIVE THEIR OPINION ON THINGS THAT THEY HAVE NO IDEA OF.
CHAYA WRITES THAT THE TIME HAS COME FOR THE RABBONIM TO TAKE ISSUE
WITH PEOPLES SPENDING ATTITUDE.
CHAYA. FIRST OF ALL, RABBONIM ARE NOT THERE TO SOLVE ALL THE SPENDING 
PROBLEMS AND MARRIAGE PROBLEMS IN OUR COMMUNITY.
THEIR JOB IS LIKE A GARAGE, A MECHANIC HE FIXES THE CAR SO THAT IT WORKS  PROPERLY.
HOW YOU DRIVE IS NOT THE MECHANICS' PROBLEM.
THE RABBONIM ARE THERE TO SHOW AND TELL YOU THE TRUE TORAH WAY IN LIFE,         
EVEN IF SOMETIMES YOU WILL FIND A FAULT IN THE RABBONIM AS WE ALL WANT MONEY.
A RABBI OR ROV OF A COMMUNITY SPECIALLY IN TO-DAYS' WORLD DOES NOT HAVE TO BE PERFECT HIMSELF AND CAN STILL TELL YOU A TRUE TORAH OPINION.
WHEN MY DEAR WIFE LOOKS AROUND ON TO-DAY'S WORLD,
SHE HAS A SAYING  "THERE ARE MORE OUT THAN IN."
LAST WEEK IT WAS VERY WARM, WHEN I WAS WALKING TO MY SHIUR I SAW A YOUNG  LADY WITH A CHILD IN A BUGGY .
IT WAS DRESSED UP LIKE IN THE MIDDLE OF THE WINTER WOOLLY HAT AND ALL, BUT IT MATCHED ! ! THAT WAS ALL THAT MATTERED TO THE YOUNG MOTHER.
A QUESTION WHICH DOES BELONG TO THE RABBONIM, SHOULD WE ALLOW SUCH YOUNGSTERS  TO HAVE CHILDREN ? ?

FRIENDSHIP GROUP

I AM WRITING THIS IN LARGE LETTERS,AS IT IS A VERY IMPORTANT POINT IN LIFE.                                                                      G=D MADE A WORLD WITH ALL DIFFERENT KINDS OF PEOPLE IN IT.                                                                                                               EVEN THE JEWISH FRUM PEOPLE (SPECIALLY CHASSIDIC) HAVE ALL DIFFERENT KINDS  OF PEOPLE. THE IDEA FROM G=D MAKING THIS WORLD IS THAT WE GET ALONG WITH EACH OTHER.                                                                                                  WE ARE ASKED BY G=D TO MARRY A PARTNER WHO IS  COMPLETELY DIFFERENT AND THE ART OF LIFE IS TO GET ALONG AND TOLERATE EACH OTHER WHICH BRINGS TRUE LOVE.                                                                                                                   I AM A MEMBER OF A CLUB WHICH IS SOMETHING NEW. IT IS CALLED A FRIENDSHIP GROUP.                                                         THE PEOPLE WHO COME TO THIS GROUP ARE  LONELY, THEY COME TOGETHER NOT FOR THE OUTINGS OR THE ACTIVITIES OF THE GROUP, BUT JUST FOR THE PEOPLE TO HAVE FRIENDS, IT IS NOT LIKE OTHER GROUPS.                                                       THIS WAS THE IDEA OF THE BA-AL SHEM TOV BUT CHASIDUS HAS STRAYED AWAY FROM IT.                                                                       A JEW WHO FEELS HE HAS FRIENDS IN HIS GROUP WILL NOT STRAY FROM YIDDISHKEIT.                                                                    MY DUTY AS A JEW IS TO BE MEKAREV ( MAKE THEM FEEL NEAR ) EVERY JEW.                                                                                      A GOOD FRIENDSHIP CLUB MAKES EVERYBODY FEEL THAT THEY HAVE VALUE.                                                                                     A GOOD PARTNERSHIP IN MARRIAGE  IS NOT JUST TO HAVE A FAMILY, BUT GIVES EACH PARTNER  VALUE.                                        I HAVE TAKEN THIS IDEA TO THE GOYIM IN THE FRIENDSHIP GROUP AND IT HAS BEEN VERY SUCCESSFUL.   

FEMALE TEACHERS

A TEACHER WRITES IN THIS WEEKS UPDATE 15/08/2013
OLDER LADIES AND GIRLS HAVE BEEN WORKING AND ACCEPTED
THAT THEY EARN VERY LITTLE.,
GIRLS AND LADIES WHO TEACH ARE EXPECTED TO BE SATISFIED
WITH FAR LESS THEN COUNTERPARTS IN OTHER PROFESSIONS.

THE REASON FOR THIS IS THAT  GIRLS AND WOMEN THINK THAT A JOB AS A TEACHER IS HITTING THE JACKPOT, OF HAVING VALUE.
AS THE LETTER STATES THEY SHOULD EARN RESPECTABLE WAGES.
IF YOU ARE NOT PAID RESPECTABLE WAGES
THEN YOU SHOULD NOT THINK THAT YOU HAVE VALUE,
YOU ARE SIMPLY BEING USED,AS MOST HEIMISHE MOSDOS DO.
YOU  ARE A SHMATTE BY THE HEADS AND THE HANHOLA.

WHAT WE HAVE TO DO IS ALL GIRLS  AND LADIES WHO TEACH HAVE TO
UNITE. ( AND FIGHT FOR  PROPERER WAGES ).
I KNOW THAT SOME JEWISH SCHOOLS MAKE IT A POINT THAT YOU
MAY NOT TELL ( EVEN ANOTHER TEACHER ) HOW MUCH YOU ARE
GETTING PAID.

STRESS OF LIFE

CHILDREN

I WAS LAST NIGHT BY A FAMILY WEDDING , I FELT SORRY FOR THE CHOSON AND KALLA, AND BLESSED THEM THEY SHOULD NOT HAVE CHILDREN FOR THE FIRST FEW YEARS. 
OPPOSITE MY HOUSE TWO YOUNG GIRLS FROM A FAMILY WANTED TO EARN 
SOME MONEY SO THEY HAVE MADE A HOLIDAY PLAY SCHEME.
THE PARENTS COME THERE IN THE MORNING ( THE FATHER OR THE MOTHER )
DROP THE CHILDREN AND THEY FEEL FREE.
I WATCH OUT OF MY WINDOW AS THE SMALL CHILDREN DO NOT WANT TO STAY, THEY CRY AND RUN AFTER THE PERSON BRINGING THEM. THEY DO NOT WANT TO GO TO THE PLAY SCHEME. THEY WANT TO BE WITH THE PARENTS.
I ASK MYSELF THE QUESTION ,
 IF THE PARENTS FIND IT BOTHERSOME TO BE WITH THE CHILDREN FOR THE LAST TWO WEEKS OF THE HOLIDAYS,
WHY O WHY DID THEY HAVE CHILDREN IN THE FIRST PLACE ?
IS ONE OR TWO  CHILDREN  NOT ENOUGH ! ! !
CHILDREN HAVE TO FEEL WANTED AND VALUED,
I HAVE HAD TO TELL A FEW MOTHERS IN THE STREET, THAT YOU CAN NOT TALK ON THE MOBILE WHEN WALKING AND CROSSING THE ROAD WITH CHILDREN.
BACK TO  THE WEDDING, MOST GIRLS AND BOYS WHEN THEY GET MARRIED ARE NOT READY TO HAVE CHILDREN.

WHAT G=D WANTS

EVERYONE NEEDS RESPECT

Double Tragedy: Two Infants Dead After Being Forgotten in Vehicles

(Monday, July 15th, 2013)

Another two tragedies in which an infant was forgotten in a vehicle in Eretz Yisrael R”L — ending in tragedy.
This first case occurred in Yishuv Shilo in Shomron on Sunday, 7 Menachem Av 5773. The child, a five-month-old boy was left in the family car by the dad for several hours. Police report seven hours. Despite all resuscitation efforts there was little hope for the little boy who was pronounced dead.
And on Monday afternoon, 8 Menachem Av, another child was found in cardiac arrest, left in the family vehicle in Yishuv Dolev, also in Shomron. In this case, the child appears to have been in the vehicle for five hours. MDA paramedics transported the infant to Tel Hashomer Hospital in Tel Aviv. The child, a girl, was R”L pronounced dead in the hospital. (Conflicting reports place the victim’s age at 18-months, 3-years and 3.5 years).

Just two weeks ago the same occurred with another infant in Ramat Gan. In that case, a nine-month-old girl was left in a vehicle by dad, once again, a fatal outcome.

- See more at: http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/news/General+News/177820/Double-Tragedy%3A-Two-Infants-Dead-After-Being-Forgotten-in-Vehicles.

I SAY WE SHOULD NOT ALLOW MARRIED COUPLES TO HAVE CHILDREN ONLY
IF THEY GO THROUGH A TEST.
AND WE KNOW THAT THEY HAVE RESPONSIBLY TO LOOK AFTER AND WANT CHILDREN.
I HAVE WROTE ABOUT THIS BEFORE,
MARRYING AT A YOUNG AGE IT MIGHT BE GOOD THAT THEY SHOULD NOT DRIFT ? ?
MOST OF THE 18 OR 20 YEAR OLD ARE TO YOUNG FOR THIS RESPONSIBILITY, 
OF CARING FOR A CHILD I SEE IT EVERY DAY,
EVEN THE OLDER ONES WHO HAVE BIG FAMILIES ALWAYS WANT TO RUN A WAY FOR A FEW DAYS.

THIS IS FROM THE JEWISH TRIBUNE 18 JULY 2013
PAGE THIRTEEN
CAR ALERT

In the last few days, Chaverim and Hatzola have had two calls concerning children
locked in cars while their parents were unable to find the keys.

I WONDER IF THESE PARENTS LEFT THEIR PURSE OR VALUABLES IN THE CAR ? ? ?
IF I WAS THE ROV I WOULD CALL SOCIAL SERVICES AND TAKE THE CHILDREN AWAY
AND PUT THEM INTO JEWISH FRUM CARE.
I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW WHO THESE PARENTS WERE,THEY DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE VALUE
OF A YIDDISHE CHILD.
I SEE SO MANY FRUM HEIMSHE CHASSIDISHE  PARENTS LEAVING THE CHILDREN IN CARE OF THE
SHIKSES.
WHEN MY CHILDREN WERE SMALL ( I KNEW  THEY WERE A BROCHE FROM THE HOLY BEIS YISROEL
AND HIS BROTHER THE HOLY LEV SIMCHA ).
I WOULD NOT EVEN LET A GOY TOUCH THEM.