THE MAKING OF A TZADDIK

DON'T YOU THINK THAT WE ARE CONCENTRATING TOO MUCH  ON THE GREAT HASHGACHAH ON  BEING MEKAREV BAALEI TESHUVAH ?
WE FORGET COMPLETELY ABOUT OUR YOUNG CHILDREN ,TEENAGERS AND ADULTS  WHO NEED HELP  IN KIRUV TO STAY IN YIDDISKEIT..
IN YOUR ARTICLE IN THE HAMODIA , YOU PUT IN SO MUCH EFFORT, TO BRING PEOPLE BACK WHO HAVE MARRIED NON JEWS.
YOU LEAVE OUT( YOU DON'T WRITE ABOUT ) THE PROBLEMS HE HAD TO LEAVE HIS WIFE OF TWENTY SEVEN YEARS.

I CAN SEE HASHGACHAH IN MY EVERYDAY LIFE.
THE PERSON AND ORGANISATIONS ,PUTTING EFFORT TO BRING PEOPLE BACK, SHOULD PUT IN THAT EFFORT THAT PEOPLE SHOULD NOT DROP OUT IN THE FIRST PLACE  ( WE HAVE SO MANY DROPPING OUT).
EVERY YOUNGSTER  WHO BECOMES A DROP -OUT, HAS BEEN BADLY TREATED BY TEACHERS OR BY ADMINISTRATORS OF SCHOOLS ,WHO WONT ACCEPT CHILDREN BECAUSE THE MOTHERS  DRESS A BIT MODERN.
I HAVE ASKED HEAD MASTERS HOW DO THESE CHILDREN FEEL?
SECOND CLASS CITIZENS.  

THIS IS NOT A PROBLEM OF NOW BUT YEARS AGO AS WELL.
A LITTLE STORY TO HIGHLIGHT THE POINT. TWENTY YEARS AGO I HAD TWO SONS IN BELZ CLAPTON COMMON,
MY BIG SON WHO WAS SIXTEEN  HAD LEARNED IN THEIR  CHEDER FOR TEN YEARS AND THEN THREE YEARS IN THE YESHIVA KETTANA.
HE WAS A GOOD BOY AND THE BELZERS WANTED I SHOULD SEND HIM TO BELZ IN ISRAEL.

MY WIFE AND I DID NOT WANT THIS FOR TWO REASONS.
NUMBER ONE WE WANTED TO SEND HIM TO A YESHIVA IN ENGLAND,GATESHEAD.
NUMBER TWO ALSO A VERY IMPORTANT POINT WE DID NOT WANT OUR CHILD TO BE KIDNAPPED BY AN ORGANISATION NO DIFFERENCE, BELZ,SATMAR,OR GUR.
IT WAS B"H OUR CHILD, WHO G-D GAVE US ,AND WE WANTED TO  INFLUENCE AND EDUCATE HIM, WE DID NOT WANT HIM TO BELONG TO ANY ORGANISATION .
ALL OF THEM TAKE OVER THE YOUNG TEENAGERS AND THE PARENTS HAVE LITTLE OR NO MEANING TO THEM, I DO  NOT HAVE TIME OR SPACE TO GO IN  TO DETAILS.

WHAT DO YOU THINK HAPPENED THE NEXT TERM MY SECOND SON WAS TOLD TO LEAVE THE CHEDER, I HAD PAID THE SCHOOL FEES IN ADVANCE THESE WERE NEVER RETURNED TO ME TO THIS DAY.
I RAN TO THE RABONIM ,RABBIS OF THE ORGANISATION THEY HAD NO TIME THEY WERE BUSIER" LICKING "THE RICH ON THE GROUNDS THEY NEED TO RAISE FUNDS.

MY SECOND SON UNDERSTOOD QUIET WELL WHAT HAPPENED AND WILL NOT GO INTO BELZ TO THIS VERY DAY.
BUT HE COULD EASILY HAVE TURNED INTO A DROP- OUT.


UPDATE:

Hamodia's Response

Dear Gaby Lock,
Our editorial board reviewed your letter and we are genuinely sorry you had such negative experiences. Your email clearly comes from a place of deep pain and we empathize with you. In the future we hope to present more material for young frum people struggling with today’s challenges to their Yiddishkeit. Thank you for bringing this to our attention.

Sarah Birnhack
Managing Editor
Inyan – Hamodia’s Weekly Magazine